In our home we always had rules about screen time, especially computer time. We also highly regulated what our kids could watch on television. Our kids weren’t even allowed to get cell phones until they were teenagers! None of these rules harmed my kids. They grew up to be well-balanced, responsible young adults who know how to create and maintain healthy boundaries in their lives.
Unfortunately, many children growing up today are not learning those same life lessons. A main reason for this is the fact that they lack human interaction because their nose is always buried in a screen. Often, we as adults are just as guilty. We all need to set limits to our screen time to maintain healthy relationships.
I was excited to read Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World, and I’m even more excited to loan my copy to friends of mine who desperately need to read this book and make some drastic changes in their current family/screen dynamic.
About Growing Up Social
Children today are no longer playing hide-and-seek outside or curling up with a good book—instead they’ve been introduced to a world of constant digital entertainment through television, video games, and mobile devices. And while technology has the potential to add value to our lives and families, it can also erode a sense of togetherness and hinder a child’s emotional and social development.
In Growing Up Social, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane will empower you with the necessary tools to make positive changes…starting today. Through stories, wit, and wisdom, you’ll discover how to take back your home from an over dependence on screens. Plus, you’ll learn to teach the five A+ skills that every healthy child needs to master: affection, appreciation, anger management, apology, and attention.
- Equip your child to be relationally rich in a digital world
- Replace mindless screen time with meaningful family time
- Establish simple boundaries that make a huge difference
- Discover what’s working for families that have become screen savvy
- Learn healthy ways to occupy your child while you get things done
Now is the time to equip your child to live with screen time, not for screen time. No phone, tablet, or gaming device can teach your child how to have healthy relationships—only you can.
Mom Maven’s Thoughts
Every parent with a child of any age living in their house needs to read this book! Yes, I mean you! Go ahead and order it from Amazon right now. Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World is the best book I have read on digital parenting. It cites not just the relational reasons for limiting screen time but also the developmental and educational reasons.
I love that this book focus on what they call the A+ Skills of Affection, Appreciation, Anger Management, Apology and Attention. All of these skills are severely diminished in people with excessive screen time and part of this book focuses on how to raise relational kids who have mastered these important skills.
The book also has a quiz at then end titled “Does Your Child Have Too Much Screen Time?” Chances are, the results of this very short quiz will open your eyes to an issue in your home.
This book is not all doom and gloom and shaming parents who up to this point have not be consistent in limiting screen time. It is full of suggestions, ideas and reasons of why and how you can handle this area of parenting better. This book is great to read alone, with your spouse or in a book club setting. There are discussion questions for each chapter to help you dig deeper into the topic.
The Growing Up Social Giveaway
One winner will receive their own copy of Growing Up Social. The winner will be chosen by Rafflecopter and verified. The winner will be notified via email and they will have 48 hours to claim their prize. This giveaway ends at 12:00am on 11-21-14.
LeeAnn P. says
my biggest screen time concern is the fierce DESIRE my son has for it. I strictly limit his time and most days he gets no screen time at all but but he craves it like a drug.
MITZI says
We have no tech times at our house for all those electronics and strict TV times, too. But it’s not just for the kids, I follow the same rules for myself. We all need boundaries, including adults.
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Tammy says
I am most concerned for my two youngest who watch more now that I blog and the others are at school. But I am trying to be more diligent in this regard!
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Maura Weins says
My biggest concern is how kids will do things on line or on their phones that they wouldn’t do communicating face to face.
Jamie says
I’m so proud of you for teaching those lessons to your kids – it really makes a difference. This was a great book that really makes you think of even your own life and what can be changed!! Share this!
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Kathy Anderson says
I won’t let my kids play on the computer before a soccer game because it tends to leave them unfocused.
Maria Kiguthi says
My biggest screen time concern it that my son plays too much 3DS time.
Denise S says
My concern is that too much screen time will damage their brains.
saralynns2 says
My biggest screen time concern is how much time to give… and what if it’s a learning game is that different than just a regular game?
lorene desjardins says
Just watching too much tv is my main concern
Rosanne says
My biggest concern is that some creepy pedophile can have access to children.
sunnie says
Watching something I don’t approve of.
Sara M. says
My biggest concern is that it’s rewiring their brain, especially babies and very young children.
Kristie D. says
My biggest concern is the lack of social interaction and making “real” friends! kristiedonelson(at)gmail(dot)com Thank you.
Dan D says
I think I would be most concerned with what kids watch and what they take away from the program. As long as the message is positive, then I see no problems. 🙂
deanna says
We need to work on appreciating others. I think looking up, speaking, and paying attention show appreciation and respect.
ashley says
can’t wait to share this with my SIL!!!
Rachel Coleman says
My main concern is that it will make them lazy.
Kim says
I can’t wait to read this book!!!
Allison says
Brain attacks are at big concern I have. Thanks so much for the chances to win.
Brenda Robinson says
Too much facebook for my family
Les Johnson says
My biggest concern is the danger that lurks on the internet. I worry about someone trying to harm my child by posing as another child.
laurie brown says
my daughter plays way too many computer games-I have got to get it under control
Nancy says
Carefully limiting screen time is important to reduce or hopefully eliminate exposure to inappropriate influences.
Connie Tillman says
Our biggest screen concern is my 3 year old is becoming dependent on it – while there are some good apps for them – he likes to play on it all the time — we do too – trying to slowly get away from it.
Adrianne B says
My concern is not learning social cues from others.
liz l says
how much time to give
Sherri J says
The biggest struggle I have is real time with my screen timing teenagers.
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heather says
My biggest concern is that they will see something they shouldn’t with alllllll the safe guards that stuff can still get in.