The premise of The 5 Love Languages is that there are 5 basic ways we feel loved. Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Words of Affirmation, and Quality Time. We all have a primary love language and many of us have a strong secondary love language, or way we feel loved.

Naturally we usually give love the way we like to receive it. Unfortunately, the person we are giving love to, our spouse, child, friend etc. probably speaks a different love language so they don’t receive love the way we easily give it. Oh no! What can we do to learn to speak their language? We can read the books and/or we can download the Love Nudge App to help us.

On the Love Nudge App you can take the 5 Love Languages Assessment and reveal your love language. You can also send the app to your spouse and have them take the assessment. Then the real journey begins as you learn to speak each other’s love language. The app, just like those favorite hookup sites, lets you send nudges to your spouse to suggest things they can do to help you feel more loved.

Love Nudge for Couples from Dr. Gary Chapman on Vimeo.

Take Ron and I for example; my primary love language is Words Of Affirmation and my secondary is Physical Touch. Ron’s primary is Acts of Service and secondary is Quality Time. Ron has a 0% need for Physical Touch…can you see how that is a problem? We realized when we downloaded the Love Nudge App and took our assessments that my need for physical touch had been mostly been met by our son, Jordan, whose primary love language is physical touch. He is a hugger and toucher who, got married in September and now doesn’t live in my house and isn’t around for daily hugs!

Ron and I have been using the Love Nudge App for a few weeks now and honestly, it started out as a bone of contention between us for the first week. Ron saw his lack of speaking my love languages as a failure as a husband and he didn’t want an app, or me, telling me he needed to change. I saw this all as a challenge and one I have failed in the last two weeks. The first week I was barely home in the evenings because I was working on a huge project at church. It is hard to do Acts of Service and/or Quality Time when you aren’t around. The second week I was so busy catching up from the first week I did get a few Acts of Service accomplished and as far as I know, they went unnoticed As a Words of Affirmation girl I need to hear, “Thanks for doing…” We are very much still learning how to speak each other’s languages and we are committed to this so that our marriage will be even better!

We have a giveaway! Download the LoveNudge App and be entered to win Dr. Gary Chapman’s #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages®, The 5 Love Languages® for Men, AND The Love Languages Devotional Bible (hardback)! Go to https://www.blessedfreebies.com/lovenudge.html to enter and for more details.

No matter how long you have been married, or how good your marriage is, it can always be better. The Love Nudge App is a free tool to help you out.

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He loved me…even with my past and he has helped me to grow into a strong woman.

I love and respect him more today than I did then.

Happy Anniversary, Ron!

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One of the first pieces of advice we got when we got married was to have a regularly scheduled ate night. It is absolutely important to have time for just you and your spouse to relax and have fun. Once the kids come along this is even more important because we all know how many demands children put on our lives. We have worked hard to have at least 1 date night a month. Sometimes we get dinner and a movie but sometimes date night consists of a trip to Walmart and watching a movie we’ve recorded on the DVR.

In the Date Night Movie, Tina Fey and Steve Carell play the Fosters, a married couple with two children whose life has become very predictable.  They go out for their weekly “date night”, this time to a trendy seafood restaurant, where after taking another couple’s reservations, they find themselves in a case of mistaken identity involving two corrupt cops. A car chase, shoot out and other hi-jinx ensue making this date night anything but routine.

Check out this trailer:

“Date Night” opens in theaters nationwide April 9th. Plan your own date night this week to see “Date Night”.

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Tired of each other and completely disillusioned with married life, Susan and Tim Pohlman are wrapping up a business trip in Italy.  They have just one day left to spend together with no agenda before they go home to California, to start divorce proceedings and finally move onto separate lives.

But during their last day as they walked along the Italian Riviera, Tim fantasized aloud that, perhaps, they could live there.  Susan initially dismissed the notion as nonsense, but found herself inexplicably overwhelmed with a desire to give the marriage another try. Defying all logic, the couple found a school for their children and signed a lease for an apartment.  Their therapist called it “an elaborate scheme of avoidance at best.”

But maybe, Susan thought, a life in such a charmed setting could help them find their way back to each other.

Halfway to Each Other is the remarkable true story of a family who traded their breakneck Los Angeles pace for a slower, relaxed life, and in the process, found abundant room for adventure and love. This is a book to be savored and enjoyed, perfect for that rainy weekend or evenings in front of the fireplace.

Open and honest, Pohlman shares the struggles she faces as she and her husband work to reconnect and save their marriage. It is difficult to leave life as you know it behind and simplify everything so that you can spend time with the people you love.  Susan and Tim’s story is one of hope and hard work.

Susan’s descriptive writing brings the reader to the Italian Riviera, where you want to just slow down and enjoy life. This true story is easy to relate to because all relationships have their stresses and strains. I recommend you pick up a copy of Halfway to Each Other, step away from your busy life, and enjoy tis great book.

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